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Show up. Not once, not perfectly — just consistently. Most people find that friends and family disappear after the first couple of weeks. Being the person who does not disappear is one of the most powerful things you can do for someone who is grieving.
Practical things that help
- Bring food. A meal, a grocery drop, a coffee. Be specific and just do it.
- Help with practical tasks. Calls, paperwork, school pick-ups. Ask what would help today, then follow through.
- Sit with them. Sometimes presence is what is needed.
- Text without expectation. “Thinking of you — no need to reply.”
- Go for a walk together. Side by side can make it easier to talk.
- Help with children or pets. Offering to take the children to school for an afternoon can be an enormous relief.
Keep showing up in the months after
Grief does not end after the funeral. Keep checking in. Send a message weeks later. Remember the first birthday, Christmas, and the anniversary of the death. Say the name of the person who died.
What to say
Say the name. Say “I’m so sorry.” Be specific with offers of help. Avoid “at least…” and “everything happens for a reason.” Read our full guide: What to Say to Someone Who Is Grieving.
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Disclaimer: General information only. Does not replace professional support. If in crisis, call 111 or 1737.